Latin women are hands down some of the sexiest, most sophisticated, outgoing, and fun women you’ll ever meet in your life. So, it should come as no surprise that Latina women are some of the most sought-after women in the world when it comes to the dating scene, or for foreigners looking to date abroad.
And, given Latin America’s convenient proximity to the United States, it should be no wonder why Latinas are so popular, talked about, and frequently pursued as wives for the right lucky soul that makes it through the trials and tribulations of dating one.
But, as is the case with dating any foreign women, it’s important you keep in mind and prepare for significant differences in both dating and official “courting” habits. In fact, right off the bat, it’s critical for you to understand that the average, traditional, well-rounded and cultured Latina of your dreams is going to want to be courted.
While it’s true Latin women know how to go out, have a good time, and like to flirt, this should not be misconstrued for sexual promiscuity or a lack of moral and family values. To quite the contrary, typically Latin women are brought up with a certain closeness by their mothers, and, taught early on the importance of marriage, settling down with the right man, and remaining ambitious for the security of their own future.
So, before you jump into the pool of beautiful, single Latinas on the market, understand that more often than not, the Latin women of your dream is going to be educated to some extent, ambitious, speak clear English, and already know the common tricks, comments, or “schemes” for trying to get her to come home with you on the first date.
Rather than wasting your time doing so, try to keep in mind these very viable tips and strategies for effectively dating the Latin woman of your dreams, and making a purposeful – hopefully long term – relationship out of it.
Winning a Latin Woman’s Heart
For starters, contrary to what you might have heard, been told, or picked up from Telenovelas or other romantic Latin movies, Latin women are not impressed, nor do they typically desire an unruly, ‘macho’ man that thinks he can do whatever he wants to or with his woman – or when she’s not around. So, with this in mind, try to focus on more practical, meaningful approaches to dating Latin women as listed below.
Under no circumstances, do not be, or show jealous characteristics around your Latin woman. And, while it’s nice and admirable to be protective, loving, and openly affectionate with her, this should not be misconstrued into you thinking you can be overly or passively aggressive with her, in private or in public to try to “mark her” and deter other men away from her.
You see, reality is, chances are she’s already been, and will continue to be regularly stared at and hit on by men for her beauty – this is where trust and confidence come in. The truth is, there’s nothing you can do about it, so, the sooner you accept it the better.
Next, be a passionate man, and if you aren’t already, try discovering your passion or passions in life, and pursuing them before you go out trying to pursue a Latin woman. That is, as they prefer and are typically most attracted to a man that recognizes his passions in life, pursues them, and knows how to achieve what he wants. So, you can see here, that again, confidence, certainty, and maturity go a long way – and don’t necessarily have to involve you being able to squat 300lbs, drive a purple Lamborghini, or know how to dance Merengue by heart.
Latin Women Are Passionate: And You Should Be Too
Another important characteristic any man should have before dating a Latin woman is a strong passion for, love, and respect for his own family. That means you, and, for whichever family members (especially women) that you have relationships with, make sure they’re respectable. And do not, I repeat do not, under any circumstances ever talk down to, or disrespect your family members when talking to your Latin lover or date.
If you’ve even thought about talking bad about hers, or would not hesitate to do so, then chances are a Latin woman is not for you and you’d be wasting your time reading any further. You see, Latin women are very proud, loving, and will stick by their family through thick and thin, over you, any day. And, although this might seem a bit disheartening, try to find pleasure and comfort in knowing that one day, should you and your Latin lover or Novia get married, that you too will become a part of that family dynamic.
As mentioned earlier, typically Latinas or Latin women are also very religious. So, you should respect her religion, and, even if you don’t have one of your own or believe in God, respect any requests to attend church with her and her family.
After all, any such invitation would be a huge compliment and sign that she’s trying to integrate and expose you not only to her family but, also her other loved ones and pastor to get to know you for approval. This means, she’s more than likely very serious about you, or wants to get serious with you – so put on your best face, be respectful, and be sincere.
What NOT to do when Dating Your Latin Girlfriend
While it might seem aesthetically pleasing or fun to you, try to keep your Spanish practicing to a minimum during more private or serious occasions – especially if you don’t know much at all. This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t practice it with her, or try to show an effort, but, rather respect her and her language, which is a major part of her culture. This means, that while you may be making an honest effort in good faith, mispronunciation can not only become annoying to her or her loved ones but can also (mistakenly) come off as offensive.
So, if this is an area that you’re seriously committed to, express that to her, and pursue Spanish studies or classes on your own time too. Once you prove yourself as serious about learning, chances are she’ll begin helping you with your homework, classes, and taking your efforts or commitment more seriously.
Know how to dance already? Great! Don’t know how to dance at all? No problem! But, just know, Latin women typically absolutely love to dance, and, that it’s a major part of their culture.
So, if you’re wanting to really bond with her, enjoy your time out together, and not sit awkwardly in the corner while she and her friends are dancing, either start practicing now, or ask her to show you how. Of course, you don’t always have to attend to her outings, as you’ll learn Latin women know how to have a good time, enjoy going out, and mingling –but more than likely that you will (and should) have your own friends and activities to tend to as well.
Just remember, don’t ever do anything that could be perceived as disrespectful towards her or your relationship – especially when she’s not around. Make no mistake, Latinos stick together.
Even if you’re not the greatest, most talented, or “coolest” guy at the bar or nightclub, know that a Latin woman will make a better man of you yet. In fact, it’s not uncommon, and, given how supportive, loving, and loyal they are, chances are she’ll help you reach potentials and enjoy a certain level of emotional support that you never knew otherwise possible.
Turning Dating into Marriage: What to Keep in Mind
Not ready to settle down and get married? Then chances are, the average Latin woman will probably not be the best for long-term dating. That is, as when they do decide on their man – and make no mistake they’ll play hard to get – they are only interested in the long-haul. So, while it’s important to play along, not be afraid to “chase” her, and win her over, just remember, she’s only looking for one man – and that’s for the purpose of spending the rest of her life with.
Did we mention food? While sure, it’s great to know how to cook, also knowing how to enjoy yourself, and try new things would likely be in your best interest when it comes to dating a Latin woman. And, know that, if you are ever offered a cuisine or new dish to try – especially by her family – that denying the offer or rejecting them can be perceived as a huge insult.
So, if it’s just something you’re not interested or willing to try, you can politely decline either on the account of already being ‘stuffed’, an allergy, or simply change direction by asking to choose something else and drawing attention to that.
Lastly, don’t ever call her “Mami”, and ideally, don’t ask her to call you “Papi.” It’s just weird, and chances are she won’t be into it – especially in the bedroom. While sure, some do, the last thing you should do is assume she will. Also, be prepared for not only the benefits and cool discoveries of her and her family exposing you to holistic solutions for good health and injury but, also their superstitious ways or beliefs.
And while no, not all Latin women are superstitious – depending on their country of origin – most are, so you should prepare yourself for it. Did we mention family? While yes, it’s true she’ll be excited and take great pride in introducing you to her family – often early on – this is not an invitation for you to likewise introduce her to yours.
And, while this may seem unfair or unusual, it’s not for a Latin woman. So, if you do introduce her to yours, expect her to think you’re looking to take things potentially a lot further than she may have been – so just take responsibility for such a move if you do.